Can a new relationship survive a year on the road?

Me and G are polar opposites in many ways. I love to sleep and I am making it my mission to enjoy as many lie-ins and comfy beds as possible before having kids. G can’t sit still. They say men can’t multi-task but G is by far the multi-tasking king. Everything he does is to a drum beat and song and I never knew it possible for a human brain to be concentrating on a difficult task whilst drumming, singing and having 2 very different conversations all at the same time. This makes for an exciting and spontaneous relationship. But when I’m not in the mood to smile it also makes for an irritating one! I try and figure out why things are the way they are where as G will trample on them thoughts with “it is what it is babe, now have we got anymore crisps anywhere?” He can also eat anything and everything all day long and still have a skinny six pack. I look at 1 crisp and pay for it with half a stone straight on my thighs. Something he finds hilarious. I do not. But our main values and beliefs and the way we see the world seems to be for the most part pretty identical. I genuinely could not believe when we first met that we both wanted to pack everything in and go live on a dessert island somewhere. I even dismissed our early conversations thinking he was being typically interested in everything I had to say for his own seedy gains. Turned out the poor boy actually was being genuine.

They say you shouldn’t move to quick. You shouldn’t see each other more than once a week for so long then you start weekday dating. You shouldn’t live together for at least so long and leave it even longer before marriage and kids.

We moved in together pretty quick just by chance really that I had got a job in his town and he needed to move out of his pad. I don’t think it’s effected us. we have our own lives, interests and friends that we see away from each other. I’m still Kim n he’s still G. I think the problems start when you become or try and make each other live the same life. Obviously there has to be compromise especially as things become more serious but I think the trick is to find someone on the same wave length in the same space in time ready for the same new challenges. Then neither has to drag or push the other too hard. Anyway we are pretty much singing from the same hymn sheet. We laid our cards out on the table when we were still casual and as we both loved our single lives we decieded that we would only become an item if we both were honestly heading along the same path. Turned out we were so we heading up it together.

We live together now and live with each others frustrations about work, friendship breakdowns, family rifts and differences in opinions on current affairs. Our home is small so when we wind eacother up there isn’t really anywhere to run to. We’ve had a couple of major firey bust ups where the dramatic side of me comes out and I questioned the meaning of it all. The chances of us separating I think are just the same if we stay home and take it slow put off the adventure for another year or two. So what would be the point in postponing? If it’s doomed it’s doomed why delay the enevitable? Or my optimistic way of looking at it, why postpone the chance of a lifetime to explore the world and share the experience with my potential soulmate?

Our relationship will no doubt be tested to its limit and maybe there is some truth in time building a more solid relationship better equipped of withstanding any life pressures. We have our niggles but the deep connections and intimacy we share we hope will be enough, more than enough to survive the intensity of being together 24:7 in unknown waters.